A Momentous Crush Goes the Distance

In the beginning, they saw each other every two or three weeks, but when she got a car, they started driving each other there every weekend. “We fell in love with Vermont,” she said.

They moved in together in the Upper West Side of Manhattan in 2016 after each of them graduated, she cum laude. Mr. Lakhanpal, a 26-year-old investment banker, worked there for three years.

A Momentous Crush Goes the Distance

Before beginning medical school at the University of Maryland, Ms. Snow, now 27, taught first grade at Success Academy charter schools for a short time. He visited her every weekend during that period of long-distance dating.

He proposed to her on a beach in Turks and Caicos in July 2018 before she started medical school.

While working as the director of strategic planning and corporate development at Center for Vascular Medicine in Greenbelt, Md. the following year, they purchased a condo in Washington, DC. Advent International, a Boston-based investment firm, plans to hire him as an associate in August. This will be their final long-distance journey.

They had originally planned to marry in July 2020 at Hildene, an events venue in Manchester, Vermont, for 200 guests, but the coronavirus pandemic forced them to postpone their plans.

Annapolis’ county courthouse hosted a wedding on June 25th, officiated by Sharon K. Burke, senior manager of the circuit court for Anne Arundel County, Maryland. A sailcloth tent was set up in the backyard of the groom’s parents with 60 guests and their golden retriever, Bailey, for champagne toasts and dinner.

More About Crush

Crushes are exciting at first because of the flutter of butterflies that invades your stomach whenever they’re in your vicinity, the ridiculous outfit planning on days when you know you might see them, and the mental log of conversation starters you keep in case you happen to run into them unexpectedly.

However, moving on from a romantic interest? This isn’t exactly a riveting story. In a word, no.

The word “crush” originates from the crushing realisation that the person you have feelings for either doesn’t share those feelings or is unavailable to reciprocate those feelings in a healthy and appropriate manner. Even though the word conjures up images of a swooning camp counsellor, crushes are just as common among grownups.

Who among us hasn’t secretly idolised a coworker, friend-of-a-friend, barista at our neighbourhood Starbucks, or (gasp!) a hot roommate? Feelings and falling in love are inevitable parts of this complicated thing we call life, but the good news is that so is getting over them.

Psychologist and sex therapist Shannon Chavez says, “At first, we could feel rejected because the partner feels differently.” When we’re upset, it can make us more susceptible to making negative assumptions about the other person’s motivations for their behaviour.


According to Chavez, this can lead to a person believing they aren’t lovable because of their looks, intelligence, kindness, or other positive traits. (Not one of these is true!)

Stop thinking about your crush if you want to get over it. Chavez advises, “Don’t dwell on the results of being rejected.” Doing so will only make you feel worse because it will lead to negative actions like stalking their social profiles, low self-esteem, and negative thoughts.